I want to compile a list for myself - easy reference when I need it.
1. we met on an adult dating site
2. she stayed on the adult dating site even when things were going good for us
3. she insisted on seeing other people and slutted around too much
4. she went overboard with flirting online
5. she went overboard with one night stands and justified it all
6. she warned me to "run away" from her, that she was not good for me
7. even after she fell in love with me, she still was undecided between me and Vincent
8. she was willing to forgo a normal, budding, exciting relationship for one that was a part time r/s where she was the other woman, was spoiled, made to feel like a prostitute at times
9. she once said she felt like hurting herself after I broke up with her
10. she used to drink to excess, once to a point that a photographer groped her, performed oral on her
11. she was willing to keep that shame secret so I could learn photography
12. she was all too willing to try anything sexually
13. she wanted to have sex with me on the first date
14. when I did not want her to see my old apartment and refused sex, she took that as rejection of her and broke things off with me
15. she detaches from her feelings and people as survival tools
16. she has said she does not believe people could be monogamous
17. she cheated on past boyfriends - Mark, Rich, Mike, etc.
18. she justified her cheating while railing against her ex husband's infidelity
19. she never came to terms with her marriage and divorce - a lot of anger and rage
20. she saw sex as a technical act and only to achieve orgasm
21. she used to masturbate just to get an orgasm while watching tv - nothing sexual about it
22. she saw sex as a tool - seduction, get what she wants, revenge, etc.
23. she lied about many things, even continued to lie after I was done with the r/s
24. she lied about the Venetian Room dinner and kept me away on purpose
25. she cybered with someone on Valentine's Day, then went to make us dinner
26. she would flirt, dress sexy to get attention from men, even if she said they were pervs
27. she needed to be constantly reassured I loved her, thought she was sexy
28. she could not leave the house without makeup
29. she had a hard time letting me see her without makeup
30. she used "our pictures" or a picture she took just for me to lure other guys over to her place when we could still see other people (and lied about it)
31. she sent pictures of herself to guys she knew to get their praise and attention
32. she did not like it if I got jealous but got quite jealous herself
33. she exaggerated stories about me to her mother to justify our breakups
34. she kept me away from her job and Vincent, admitted recently she could not handle us meeting
35. she tried to always get me jealous by telling me stories about men who wanted her, flirted with her, etc. - make herself more desirable in my eyes
36. she was always confused about her feelings - very bpd
37. even after I was hurt bad, she made it all about her and her problems with Rich
38. when I dropped off the dog gate, she got flirty with me, made it about her and how good she looks
39. she was uncompromising about her house and living space
40. hypersexual at times, non sexual other times - complete opposites
41. never content, always open to new sexual highs with me
42. big commitment issues and trust issues
43. self centered and self absorbed always
44. she used to turn conversations around so they were about her
45. at the end of the day, her needs were most important
46. she felt rejected and criticized over the smallest of things
47. she felt rejected if I told her not to stress about work so much
48. she bad mouthed people all the time including friends and co-workers - splitting
49. she felt entitled to whatever she wanted
50. she vilified her ex for cheating but was the other woman in another marriage
51. she justified her relationship with Vincent
52. she shows very little empathy and remorse towards me and others
53. she always fished for compliments
54. she paid too much attention to her makeup, hair, etc. and nothing for the inside
55. she was too materialistic deep down
56. she made threats to leave and go home if things were not good
57. she was threatened by my female friends as well as hers
58. she embellishes and exaggerates stories
59. she overused pills for all her ailments
60. she would always have physical problems - neck, back, knee, bladder, IBS, migraines, stress management was poor, headaches, reflux, etc.
61. she refused therapy
62. she was suicidal in her youth and hurt herself
63. she liked to be smacked in the face during sex
64. no sense of who she is
65. she could not talk about feelings or her issues
66. she often played victim but ragged on others who do the same
67. she was dramatic
68. she never called Emily back to say goodbye, was hesitant when Em wanted to say bye
69. ignored my family - no email bye - distant to Rich, Lisa and Mom when she came to Disney
70. displays "look at me" behavior all the time, online as well
71. her emotions and actions were childlike and impulsive
72. intimacy issues, Daddy issues
73. in denial about things all the time
74. when she hurt me with Vincent, everything was none of my business, concern anymore
75. she had a different face for everyone - lack of identity
76. very low self esteem and worth - needs validation from men to feel good
77. used to brag about how men loved her, proposed to her, wanted to buy her a house, etc.
78. splitting - good or bad, no gray area
79. admitted to being a nutjob, nutball, unstable, has problems, feels she is entitled to having issues
80. changes her persona to make her mate happy
81. never enough attention for her, never satisfied - lived almost in a fantasy world
82. a user deep down - for her needs
83. she needed to be loved more than she loved
84. she ran away from me to avoid emotional pain, deleted us from her life
85. break up with me, then want me back to avoid being alone
86. when I got too close, she would push me away
87. she wanted a honeymoon phase to last forever
88. when we saw others, she had unprotected sex and lied about it
89. she gave me an std
90. she reveled in competition for her affections
91. she felt superior to everyone
92. she broke no contact with me a number of times, then pulls back
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